Notice in Zenquillity how we feel when we receive love.

Notice in Zenquillity how we feel when we receive love. As we experience ourself in the centre of a circle, all kinds of different emotions may arise. we may feel gratitude and awe, or we might feel kind of shy, like we would rather duck down and have all of these beings send loving kindness to one another and forget about us. Whatever emotion may arise, we just let it wash through us. our touchstone is those phrases—May I be happy. May I be peaceful… or whatever phrases you’ve chosen.

Zenquillity Learning to Receive the love of those who love us.

Zenquillity Learning to Receive the love of those who love us. Experience ourself as the recipient of the energy, attention, care, and regard of all of these beings in our circle of love. Silently repeat whatever phrases are expressive of that which we most wish for ourself, not just for today but in an enduring way. Phrases that are big and open, something like: May I be safe, be happy, be healthy. Live with ease of heart. May I be safe, be happy, be healthy. Live with ease of heart.

2019 lightening and Throwing Back Kindfulness the most powerful meditation program for change

Imagine that we are encircled by people who love us. Sitting comfortably, eyes open or closed, and imagine ourself in the centre of a circle made up of the most loving beings we’ve met. There may be some people in our circle who we’ve never met but have been inspired by. Maybe they exist now or they’ve existed historically, or even mythically.Got it.

Zenquillity Loving-kindfulness is done in the easiest way possible so that the experience springs forth most gently, most naturally.

Zenquillity Loving-kindfulness is done in the easiest way possible so that the experience springs forth most gently, most naturally. To do it in the most easiest way possible means first to use phrases that are personally meaningful. The traditional phrases as are taught, at least this one classical translation of them, begins with oneself:

May I be free from danger, may I know safety. Danger in that sense is both inner danger from the force of certain mind states, and outer danger. So, May I be free from danger. May I have mental happiness. May I have physical happiness. May I have ease of well-being—which means may I not have to struggle terribly, day by day, with livelihood, with family issues.


Let your mind rest in the phrases. You can be aware of the phrases either with the breath or just in themselves—the focus of the attention is the phrases. Let your mind rest within them. The feelings will come and go.

May I be free from danger, may I have mental happiness, but really, you should use any phrases that are powerful for you. They need to be meaningful not just in a very temporary way—May I get to this course okay—but something profound that you would wish for yourself and wish for others. Thoughts are very important in doing loving-kindness—not to struggle to get a certain kind of feeling. Let your mind rest in the phrases. You can be aware of the phrases either with the breath or just in themselves—the focus of the attention is the phrases. Let your mind rest within them. The feelings will come and go.

Sometimes it will feel quite glorious, it will be extraordinary.

Sometimes, many times, it will be very very ordinary, very dry or very mechanical—but it doesn’t matter. It doesn’t mean that nothing is happening or that it’s not working. What’s important is to do it, is to form that intention in the mind because we’re uniting the power of loving-kindfulness and the power of intention and that is what will produce the effect of that free flow of loving-kindfulness.

Zenquillity 2019 Make sure no visitor will come to disturb you.

WORKSHOP; This is the silence at the heart of meditation. Make sure no visitor will come to disturb you.
You're alone to do meditation with abstract Zenquillity.
Use this time to try a slightly different form of meditation. It's a rare opportunity. Look for a place where you are undisturbed an comfortable for five or ten minutes.... look.... look...look... look.... look ...found it? OK!
How to meditate?

Sit comfortably.

Sit on a cushion,
a bench or a chair
it doesn't matter.

Keep your back upright,
our hands in our lap, our eyes half-open.
Breath. Relax.

That's our meditation, our Zenquillity! 

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We can’t act on our desires alone.

We can’t act on our desires alone. We have to contemplate the details of what needs to be removed and what needs to be cultivated. KintSugi

ZENQUILLITY WORKS taking back the power

Someone does something inconsiderate or infuriating that frustrates or angers us. We fume about it for hours. We've given this person the power to make us frustrated and angry, to ruin our day, often without them even realising it.

We are lonely because we are alone, no longer with the partner who broke up with us. We have given away our power to feel loved to someone else, who perhaps doesn't want to give us that love.

We walk into a social gathering and hope to impress people, to gain their approval, to be liked. we've given away our power of being approved to others, who don't even know they have a responsibility to validate us.
we are still angry at our parents (or one of our parents) for the crappy way they raised us, or for certain things they did that screwed us up. we've given away our power to shape our own life, to people who haven't been responsible for raising us for years, since we became an adult.

In all of these cases, and many more examples throughout our day, we've given away the power to be happy, to be content, to be joyful, to other people, who haven't even asked for that power or realise we've handed it to them.

But actually, the power over these states of mind — approval, love, anger, joy — resides completely inside of us.

This is the hidden source of power that we don't tap into.

Let me give you an example. Let's say you're pining over a lover who has rejected you, and wishing you had those incredible moments back, where they made you feel happy, loved. But actually, the source of that love was inside of you, not outside of you. When you were with your ex-lover, they were there in the room with you, but the source of feeling loved was in your own mind, in your own heart. You made yourself feel that way, by how you perceived the situation.

That means that we have the power to make ourself feel loved. At any time. It's always available to us. It depends on no one else.

You have the power to make ourself feel angry, or at peace. To feel hurt, or joyful. To feel connected, or disconnected. To feel accepted, or rejected.

That's not to say that other people don't do crappy things. But those crappy things don't have to make us feel horrible — we can let them slide off of us, and decide how we want to feel. Sure, that's easier said than done, but it's still a power that resides within us.

That's also not to say we don't need anyone else. Or that we're an island, standing completely on our own. In our view, we are more interconnected than we realise. Choosing to see ourselves as already interconnected, always connected to the emotions of others, is actually a way to tap into our inner power. Turning towards others and seeing their pain and love, not just our own, is a fantastic way to tap into the power to make ourselves feel purposeful, to feel loved.

But make no mistake: the power is inside of us, nowhere else.

We can make ourselves feel loved, by loving ourselves and others.

We can make ourselves feel liked and approved of, by seeing ourselves and finding the miracle in what we see, finding contentment in who we are, just as we are.

We can make ourselves feel peace, by letting go of slights and judgments of others, and finding contentment in how things are, loving things as they are.

We can give ourselves joy, by realising our interconnectedness with others, by caring about others, by appreciating the heartbreaking beauty of this moment, just as it is.

We learn to press the Pause button before we make new commitments.

In this Zenquillity approach,

We learn to press the Pause button before we make new commitments. We hesitate before taking on something new, and evaluate whether we really have the mental space for it. We make ourself wait a bit, like a cooling off period.

Zenquillity is a completely new approach

Zenquillity is a completely new approach, we learn to recognise the excuse that were too busy to do something that’s important to us. If it’s important, we can make it happen. If we have too many other things … we just need to create structure so that we can make time for what matters. dropping the things that really don’t matter.


If we start making excuses, we need to confront ourself on it.


If were overloading ourself, it’s because we don’t have the courage to say no before we take something on.


If we feel overwhelmed, we need to let ourself feel overwhelmed. And then make the time to get our most important mission done.


So this is Zenquillity, boiled down: Awaken to when were justifying not doing something important, and stop buying the excuse. Make the space, create structure and make it happen. Awaken to when were about to quit doing something important that we’ve committed to, because were feeling too busy. Make the Zen space and structure for it. Awaken to when were about to give up because something is uncomfortable. Zenquillity into the discomfort and go deeper. Pause before taking on new things. we don’t have room for new things right now. Instead, become a Zen finisher. Deal with feelings of overwhelm by creating space for silence, meditation, and wide open freedom in our consciousness.


Life is too short to be without ZENQUILLITY