The ideal of the perfection of giving--is "no giver, no receiver.

Have you ever seen someone do something courteous and then get angry for not being properly thanked? True compassion has no expectation of reward or even a simple "thank you" attached to it. To expect a reward is to maintain the idea of a separate self and a separate other.

The ideal of the perfection of giving--is "no giver, no receiver." For this reason, by tradition, begging monks receive alms silently and do not express thanks. Of course, in the conventional world, there are givers and receivers, but it's important to remember that the act of giving is not possible without receiving. Thus, givers and receivers create each other, and one is not superior to the other.

That said, feeling and expressing gratitude can be a tool for chipping away at our selfishness, so unless you are a begging monk, it's certainly appropriate to say "thank you" to acts of courtesy or help.

Genuine compassion must have both wisdom and loving-kindfulness.

Compassion is an aspiration, a state of mind, wanting others to be free from suffering. It's not passive -- it's not empathy alone -- but rather an empathetic altruism that actively strives to free others from suffering. Genuine compassion must have both wisdom and lovingkindness. That is to say, one must understand the nature of the suffering from which we wish to free others (this is wisdom), and one must experience deep intimacy and empathy with other sentient beings (this is lovingkindness)."

Compassion brings great warmth and kindness

"We realise the intimate connection between the conventional truth and the ultimate truth through the practice of compassion. It is through compassion that we become thoroughly grounded in the conventional truth and thus prepared to receive the ultimate truth. Compassion brings great warmth and kindness to both perspectives. It helps us to be flexible in our interpretation of the truth, and teaches us to give and receive help in practicing the precepts."​

Zenquillity is the practice of giving

Zenquillity is the practice of giving is universally recognised as one of the most basic human virtues, a quality that testifies to the depth of one's humanity and one's capacity for self-transcendence. In the teaching of the Buddha, too, the practice of giving claims a place of special eminence, one which singles it out as being in a sense the foundation and seed of spiritual development.

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Delusions are inexhaustible, Beings are numberless

Beings are numberless;
I vow to free them.
Delusions are inexhaustible;
I vow to end them. gates are boundless;
I vow to enter them.
The Awakened Way is unsurpassable;
I vow to embody it.

Calm is his thought, calm his speech, and calm his deed

"There is no more worldly existence for the wise one who, like the earth, resents nothing, who is firm as a high pillar and as pure as a deep pool free from mud. Calm is his thought, calm his speech, and calm his deed, who, truly knowing, is wholly freed, perfectly tranquil and wise."

Child Within TENSTAGE+

1.  JOYFUL RECOVERY IN TEN STAGES+

We begins the journey of joyful recovery with the thought of fully understanding our predicament and how we got their. We have taken a profound life changing decision, the most basic of which is "May I attain understanding for the benefit of my child within and all others." Even at this early stage, we  come to recognise the emptiness circle of our materialistic life. In this first early stage, we start to cultivate the solution to our problems by the use of loving- kindfulness, the perfection of giving or generosity to the self and others in which we recognise there are no givers and no receivers so breaking the endless circle of drama and chaos that has enveloped our lives.

2. Child Within PURITY

We cultivate and understand, the perfection of morality, which culminates in selfless compassion for all others. We are purified of our immoral conduct and dissociations that have mercilessly ruled our lives.

3. LUMINOUS OR RADIANANCE OF THE CHILD WITHIN

We are now become purified of the poisons of dissociations that have ruthlessly effected our child within communication.
We cultivate a new understanding of ourselves, which is the practice of patience or forbearance firstly of ourselves then others, Now we have gained the knowledge that we can bear all burdens of the material life and hardships to complete our permanent recovery, we journey forwards and escape the circles of drama and chaos which surround us. We achieve the deep reflective absorptions of loving kindfulness as generated by our awakened child within and we start to experience a new feeling of power and authority over our life.

4. THE BRILLIANT BLAZING LAND of the child within

OUR remaining false conceptions are burned away by our new awakening, and our good qualities are pursued. This level is also associated with, the realisation of the child withins great renewed energy power and authority.

5. THE SHADOW SELF THAT IS DIFFICULT TO CONQUER
Now as we go deeper into our land of quiet meditation, this place is deeply associated with the perfect child within, the deep peace of meditation. We pierce through the darkness of ignorance. Now we understands the Truth of our predicament and the Two Truths of the revelation of the child within. As we develop ourself, we devote ourselves to the welfare of others.

6. Child Within LOOKING FORWARD TO WISDOM
We become associated with, the natural path of true wisdom. We see that all phenomena are without self-essence and understand the nature of Co-Dependent dissociations -- the way all of us arise and cease conflict with ourself and others.

7. THE FAR-REACHING WISDOM OF THE CHILD WITHIN
We acquire the power of understanding, or skilful means to help others realise the path to true recovery..At this point, we have have transcended our original dissociated predicament and we can manifest into our reality in whatever form is most needed for the recovery of others.

8. THE IMMOVABLE CHILD WITHN
We can no longer be disturbed because our merger with the child within is within sight. From our transcendence we can no longer fall back to earlier stages of our dissociated development.

9. CHILD WITHINS GENEROUS THOUGHTS
We understands the reality of all kindfulness teachings and meditations which we are able to pass on to others.

10. We become confirmed in our belief...
We become are purified in our new belief system of kindfulness, and we re-enter our birth-hood of peace and tranquility. Child Within contact becomes the haven for contented children we have become.